Being

Being is a personal experience. If someone had asked me twenty years ago what Being was, I probably would have thought it was a riddle, joke, or a rhetorical question.

For a large part of my life, I had been a human-doing.
Doing things I had to.
Doing things I needed to.
I found something to do even when there was nothing to do.
Silence was not my friend.
Time with myself was avoided, not embraced.. 

Something changed along the way between then and now. I would almost say it had to change, but it didn’t. I chose to change through self awareness, learning about mindfulness, and self-compassion.

Sitting With Myself

The experience of Being often takes place when sitting with myself. It is turning inward to the sensations in my body, my breathing, and my aliveness. I enjoy meditation scripts, but for this I usually sit in silence. There are sounds in silence. It might be a child outside playing and laughing. In the winter, I often hear the sound of the heater warming my environment. The parts of life, and myself, that are often missed by being a human-doing are found by shifting to a human-being.

This is my self-care.

The Shift That Happened

The Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction program at Brown University began the shift from being a human-doing to human-being. I signed up for class out of curiosity and wanting to try something new. It was like opening up a whole new world. There was a class purely for reducing stress. I thought to myself, “Sign me up!”

The eight-week course introduced me to mindfulness and yoga. The course was beneficial. I took it again. The second time I gained more insight about myself, mindfulness, and the mind-body connection. I noticed a shift within myself. I would walk being aware of my feet touching the ground, what it felt like, and what it felt like within my body. I had walked so many steps in the past not even being aware of my body moving. I was more like a head that just happened to have a body attached. Now I experienced the walk, movement, breathing, and humanness.

My Being Counseling

Being is an experience I am passionate about. I want to help educate people about the benefits of slowing down, experiencing their body, and the wellness that comes along with that. In graduate school, I wanted to create a name for a webpage and counseling service that represented my approach to counseling. 

My Being Counseling focuses on the client’s being including their individuality, uniqueness, and presence while exploring past experiences, patterns, and habits to achieve greater wellness within their body, relationships, and life.

Mindfulness approaches are within modalities, such as Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), and Sensate Focus Therapy (SFT). These approaches are often used with those experiencing challenges related to anxiety, chronic stress, intimacy and life transitions. 

Benefits

Things look a little different after slowing down. I experience gratitude in a way I had not before. One of my favorite things since embracing mindfulness is falling asleep faster and sleeping better. Some other benefits include managing anxiety and stress in a more effective, healthier way.

And You?

What is Being for you?