The journey through my education has been one that has not been a clear path. I do believe that each step through life, challenges, and knowledge has lead me to here.

Where is here? I am two months from graduating with Master’s Degree in Clinical Mental Health Counseling.

The Path To Here

In high school, I was given an aptitude test. One of the top results was secretary. This was back in 1990-something. At the time, I was very interested in Marine Biology, science, and nature. It was a path that I began to pursue with an Associate of Arts Degree in Liberal Arts. As life happened, I got unintentionally closer to the aptitude test result while working in a call center for ten years. I answered the phone, resolved problems, and sat at a desk. It was great until I started feeling like the cubicle I sat in was more like a prison cell that I was going to live a life sentence in. It really did feel that way. 

It was around this time that I decided moving to Florida would be a wonderful idea being that there was nice weather, water, and creatures in the water. Looking back, it’s between an interesting journey of me getting closer to the things I have wanted to do but not quiet taken the final step to accomplish it all the way. Some might call it fear, self-sabotage or just it not being time yet. At points throughout my life, I did look into that marine biology path but it was a step outside of my resources, both financial and emotional. The one thing that has stayed consistent was my love of science and learning.

Fast forward, I decided to pursue an Bachelor’s Degree in Educational Studies. I was able to take all of my credits and transfer them into a program that allowed me to go at my own pace. I was able to commit a lot of time and energy in these two years to complete the degree. While in this program, I worked within the school district and decided that was not the place I wanted to be. I did see the challenges of both the system, students, and teachers. I wanted to help but in a different way.

There was a point where I was learning about the effects of trauma, childhood development, and seeing the intersectionality of it within the school. Mental health is so important but the resources are limited within the school. Perhaps, I could counsel adults as a counselor who would then trickle down to helping the current youth and the next generation. I had a lot of skills that were important for this role including curiosity, enjoying learning, active listening, and a desire to educate people of the importance and role in mental health. I applied for a Master’s Degree program and was accepted.

Here is Now

During the past almost three years, I have learned so much about mental health, counseling, and myself. They say that the counselor is a key component of counseling. This has allowed me to look closer at who I am as a person, what I believe, and very often what I need to unlearn.

I decided to enroll in a sex therapy certification program along the way. It is about much more than sex. It is about understanding yourself, connecting and communicating. Many times people do not know how to effectively ask for what they want, in and out of the bedroom, so I enjoy empowering people with skills, knowledge, and tools. 

As I graduate in May 2024, I look forward to the future of my schooling. I don’t think I am going to go onto get a PhD in Sexology. As cool as it would be to be called Dr. Bock, I’m not sure that it is where I want to dedicate my time and energy. I plan on continuing with learning more about somatic work, trauma, and intimacy.

And You?

How did you get to where you are? Do you want to go back to school?